Just Looking

Written by Christianity and the Confusion on September 3rd, 2005

Author: Bee Clauson


My nephew and his new wife were kind enough to take me shopping at the local mall.  They know how much I love to window shop.  They get a real laugh out of how many times I tell salesmen that “I’m just looking.”

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I had slip off into my own little world of browsing when I realized that they were having a lovers spat.  Evidently she caught him looking at another girl.  He told her that there was nothing wrong with it, that he was just admiring God’s creation.  He added that there was nothing romantic or sexual in it, that it was a pure form of appreciating God’s work.


I didn’t know if I should say anything, but I definitely have some thoughts on the male characteristic.  There is more to this than an innocent glance, Proverbs <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = “urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags” />6:25 says “Lust not after her beauty in thy heart;” yes lust for that is what we are really talking about.  Men and women like to kid themselves that it’s only innocent flirting, but the dictionary defines flirting as, “playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest.”   It may go no further than that but that doesn’t make it innocent, for is a little lust any less sinful than a lot of lust?  It would seem to me that one starts off allowing himself to just do a little, then a little more tell finally he is full of lust.  This is why Jesus said in Matthew 5:28-29;


but I say unto you, that every one that looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.  And if thy right eye causeth thee to stumble, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not thy whole body be cast into hell.


Love is a fragile thing that shouldn’t be played with, it should be guarded like gold.  Without the strong bond of love what can hold us together.  Lusting even for a little bit can harm that bond and destroy that innocence that love is conceived in.  James 1:14-15, “but each man is tempted, when he is drawn away by his own lust, and enticed.  Then the lust, when it hath conceived, beareth sin: and the sin, when it is fullgrown, bringeth forth death.”  The thing is that when it comes to people there isn’t any such thing as just looking; it’s going to lead to somewhere. 



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